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Be Happy! Home is the Happiest Place to Live in
Friday, January 1st, 2010 | Relationships | No Comments
The world may be a dreary, dreadful, and dangerous place to venture into. There may be cut-throat competition in which survival of the mean, cunning, and bully only is possible. It may not be a place for gentle, honest, and kind person like you. It is full of murderers, criminals, rapists, and swindlers. They are ready to snatch away the loaf of bread from your hand. You need a sanctuary from them. You need a place where there is love and care, understanding and compassion, give and take. You need somebody who could guide and protect you. You need somebody who could be equal partner in your joys and sorrows. You need somebody upon whom you could shower your love and care. You need a home and a family.
Parents sacrifice a lot and endure great hardships in up-bringing their children. They are selfless in their love and can even lay their lives for the protection of their children. A spouse is a life time partner in your days of sunshine and rain. Brothers and sisters are your friends and supporters. Your children are your life time fans who love you unconditionally. The love, care, and support of family is a great happiness. Blessed is the person who has got a family.And who amongst us has not got one? But we take family for granted. We don’t recognize it as a great source of happiness.The more happiness you give to your family the more you extract out of it.
You are born into a family and grow up within a family.A family not only provides comfort, enjoyment, and security, but it also gives emotional and spiritual bliss. In fact, one may find so much happiness within family that he or she may not need to search it outside it.The love and care of mother and father, brothers, sisters, sons and daughters, wife or husband sustain us. Though love is one and the same yet the love of each is so different too. A family may extend beyond these immediate relations and may include grand parents, grand children, in-laws, uncles, aunts, nephews, nieces, and other relatives.
Can all the money of the world buy the love and affection of one’s parents? Can one be happy without them?How much enjoyment and happiness they add to our life? Similar is the case with brothers and sisters. At a later stage of life husband or wife becomes practically the sole arbiter of our happiness.
The author is an interior designer and he has published several articles on bathroom remodeling and plumbing.
Can Today’s Children Be Happy - Without Being Spoiled?
Saturday, August 30th, 2008 | Parenting | No Comments
The so-called Baby Boomer Generation grew up with few of the luxuries most children seem to have today. Some would say that the simpler life of the 50’s and 60’s also made for happier children. They had less consumer products, less TV, and no such thing as video games. Can children be happy in the early part of the 21st century without parents spoiling them rotten? The answer is an unqualified yes.
Look at today’s children. Cells phones, designer clothes, hand-held games, mom or dad based “taxi” service, and much more. How are children being raised today? Since the boomers did not have any of this, something must be missing in order to fit in all the new. What?
Then there are the role models. Celebrities, celebrities, and celebrities. One has to wonder what our youth think when they read all the “gossip” in the papers and magazines. That is followed by the entertainment tonight shows highlighting the mess their “hero” is in.
We all want to raise happy, well adjusted, children. If you really want this result, then there will be times when you must say “No”. If too much comes on a silver platter, then how will they learn to deal with life when they move out? Will you continue to spoil them after they have a major blow-up with their partner? One parent wrote in to a well known columnist saying that they finally learned to say no, and now their married daughter has not returned their calls for 3 months!
If you give your child everything they desire (which in some cases is just based on what they saw a friend get) you will deprive them of experiencing the ups and down of life; which could prevent them from reaching their goals later in life. Disappointment is something that we all must go through. Better to learn to deal with the facts of disappointment early in life rather than later.
You have heard the saying - “If you don’t expect it, you’ll never be disappointed.”
“Things” are not where it’s at. Values, morals, and the unconditional love that abounds within the family. That is where it’s at. Keep these principles in mind and raising happy children without spoiling them rotten will be easy.