love after divorce
What’s the Secret to Finding Lasting Love?
Monday, July 20th, 2009 | Relationships | No Comments
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Expert, writes… …
I get asked questions about how to find love , the kind of love that lasts. Here are a couple of your burning questions and my Law of Attraction coaching answer to them.
1. I’m in my mid-40’s. I’m just about to give up on love. I’m afraid my time has passed.
Don’t give up. It’s NEVER too late. Make it your dominant intention to find out what belief you hold that stands between you and being a magnet for love.
Consider the Universe is a gigantic intention fulfillment machine. When you want a love relationship and you keep getting duds, there’s a mismatch in your beliefs. You have a lingering belief in not being worthy, or that something else is wrong with you. Look for whatever that limiting belief is and work with a coach to soften and shift that belief. Read how to bridge a belief in the Resources section on www.nanettegeiger.com.
2. How can I know that I’m in the allowing mode? That is an excellent question! And I believe that it is the foundational piece that most of us need to work on. Build your belief muscles by pretending how wonderful it will be when your love shows up. Practice what it feels like to be in love. One of the very best ways is to work with the ‘feeling state’ as much as possible. Practice frequently. It takes repetition to learn a new habit.
Play with the energy of make believe and feel it as real. How will you feel when… … the love of your dreams shows up … you plan a surprise gourmet picnic for him … you hold hands and tell jokes … you play games in the car on a long ride etc., etc. You get the idea. This will move your expectation frequency into the state of allowing because you’re acting AS-IF it’s already so.
ReKindle Your Love Life with These 5 Tips
Friday, July 10th, 2009 | Family | No Comments
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …
If you’re wondering where the affection and passion have gone from your intimate relationship, and you’d like it back, I’ve got some very good news for you. Job stress, lengthy commutes, balancing the kids’ schedules, financial pressures, and household duties never seem to end.
You’ve gotten in the habit of putting them all before your relationship needs. How did all that happen? Gradually and over a period of time, no doubt. Are you ready for some love advice that will make the difference? Well if you think that you’ll have to wait all the external problems are solved for you to return to the loving intimacy you once enjoyed, think again.
You can have what you want and you don’t even necessarily have to have your mate on board 100%. By being who you want to be, I’ll show you how you can influence your partner, draw the best out of him or her and enhance your love relationship today.
1. Appreciate
This is simple yet powerful. If you will look for as many ways as possible to compliment what your partner does, you’ll find him or her coming around for more affection and positive attention and start offering it back. Appreciation is one of the highest emotional states. It’s right up there with love. Even if you find yourself wanting to find fault, instead start finding reasons to praise. If he doesn’t do the chores you want, start making lists in your head (or better on paper) of what you would love him to do - as if he’s already in the habit of doing it. You’ll see fast shifts if you do this practice as little and 7 days.
2. Acknowledge
Acknowledgment is a powerful tool. When you acknowledge someone, you are in a deep listening mode. I’m suggesting that you listen deeply free from that internal monologue going on in your head. Free yourself of the voice in your head that has the answer, a better suggestion or solution to whatever he or she is talking about. Be fully present. And acknowledge that you heard what he or she said. Your partner will feel very validated and valued. A great gift of deep intimacy.
3. Affection
Remember the little things. A loving smile, little love notes on the bathroom mirror. Dry erase markers work well on mirrors and come off very easily. Let her know how much you love sharing life with her. Stroke his arm the way you used to just because. Remember the little things.
4. Seeing Eye-to-Eye
This is a great tip for getting right to the heart. Spend 2-3 minutes looking into each other’s eyes without speaking. Just be with each other deeply, fully present. You will experience such love for your partner. This kind of love and appreciation goes beyond words. Your hearts meet. You remember why you fell in love. You experience the depth of what your love has grown into.
5. Allow
Allow your judgments to cease. Allowing is letting it be. Letting things be just as they are. There’s a lot of release from just letting go or allowing. Perhaps you’ve heard the saying “Let Go and Let God.” This is the perfect stance to be in. There is an underlying perfection to your relationship exactly as it is right now. When you allow, you have access to all of that perfection.
Use as many of these tips and tools as you can. They’re all powerful. They all have the potential to ignite deeper intimacy and love between you and your partner. You may have to put your ego aside. Play with these tips and may you enjoy many years of love and laughter in partnership.
4 Things Every Woman Should Know About Relationships
Tuesday, July 7th, 2009 | Family | No Comments
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Author, writes… Contrary to widely held finding love advice that’s out there on the internet, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one way for certain to turn her off and have him looking for the door.
Seriously, put yourself in someone else’s shoes, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a man’s point of view, may not work from a woman’s perspective. From a woman’s point of view, a real man is a man who can communicate about what he wants and how he feels.
It’s more acceptable these days for a real man to open her heart and communicate openly from her heart. The ability to openly communicate is a prized attribute and a turn on for most women.
Whether you’re looking for casual dating or your soul mate, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Relationship Advice for Women the most important thing to know is what you want.
1. Knowing What You Want
What’s important to you? Get clear about what those qualities are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet him. Is she funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?
When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re not afraid to get clear and be straight about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when [she’s.
2. Be Flexible
When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m proposing that you stay curious about ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ It’s possible to get even more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.
3. Let Go of the HOW
When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which does nothing for the attractor factor.
4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet
That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Become like the person you want to meet. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.
When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.
Love After Breakup
Friday, July 3rd, 2009 | Relationships | No Comments
Real Relationship Solutions for Real People
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …
Finding love is doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in a haystack.
Admitedly, it can feel that way, I can assure you that you can find your ideal partner for you if you follow these steps.
The values and attributes you want in your ideal mate will determine what actions you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or deep intimacy, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three crucial points to successful partnership chemistry. Attraction or chemistry is not
about how attractive you look, having the perfect come on lines, or being smoothe.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you get clear on exactly what you want, exude the essence of what it feels like to already have it, and let go of the details on when it will happen, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.
Here’s further explanation of what I mean.
1. Know what you want.
We now know that everything is energy. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Make a list of the qualities and values you desire in your ideal mate.
2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …
3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go and go with the flow, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Feeling good, expectant and happy releases resistance. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.
Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass
4 Best Kept Tips For Women About Relationships
Friday, July 3rd, 2009 | Relationships | No Comments
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… Contrary to accepted love advice that’s out there in cyberspace, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one way for certain to make a bad first impression and have him looking for the door.
Seriously, put yourself in someone else’s shoes, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that make you feel comfortable? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a man’s point of view, may not work from a woman’s perspective. From a woman’s point of view, a real man is a man who can communicate about what he wants and how he feels.
It’s more commonplace these days for a real woman to open his heart and communicate openly from her heart. The ability to openly communicate is a valuable trait and a turn on for most women.
Whether you’re looking for a casual relationship or someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Relationship Advice for Women the first place to start is to know what you want.
1. Knowing What You Want
What’s important to you? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet him. Is he funny, does she think you’re funny? Is it important to you that you share the same interests? Is he interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?
When you have an idea about what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re not afraid to get clear and be straight about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when you’ve encountered Ms. Right.
2. Be Flexible
When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you remain open more possibility and how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m proposing that you stay curious about ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ Be open to getting more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.
3. Let Go of the HOW
When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also resisting what you want, which hinders your magnetic attraction.
4. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet
That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Become like the person you want to meet. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.
When you’re looking, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.
How to Find The Perfect Mate, Even After a Difficult Divorce
Sunday, June 28th, 2009 | Family | No Comments
Real Relationship Solutions for Real People
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …
Finding love is doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in a haystack.
Though it may seem that way at times, I can assure you that you can find the perfect mate for you if you follow these steps.
The values and attributes you want in your ideal mate will determine what actions you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three critical steps to relationship attraction. Attraction or chemistry is not
about how attractive you look, saying all the right things, or making the right moves.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you know what you want, play with the feeling of how it feels to already have what you want, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.
Here’s further explanation of what I mean.
1. Know what you want.
The universe is made up of energy which is moldable. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first a thought. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Make a list of the qualities and values you desire in your ideal mate.
2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …
3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go and go with the flow, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Feeling good, expectant and happy releases resistance. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.
Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass
Finding Love Again, Even After Loss or Divorce
Monday, June 22nd, 2009 | Relationships | No Comments
Real Relationship Solutions for Real People
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Advisor, writes… …
Finding love is doesn’t have to be like searching for the proverbial needle in a haystack.
Admitedly, it can feel that way, I can assure you that you can find the perfect mate for you if you follow these steps.
What you want in your ideal partnership relationship will determine what approach you take to find him or her.
Whether you want fun companionship or lasting love and commitment, knowing what you want is the first step.
There are three crucial points to successful partnership chemistry. Attraction or chemistry is not
about looking good, having the perfect come on lines, or making the right moves.
I’m referring to who you are that comes from the inside that will determine how attractive you are and the kind of vibe you give off.
There is a universal principle known as the Law of Attraction which states like attracts like.
When you get clear on exactly what you want, exude the essence of what it feels like to already have it, and let go of the how and when, you’ve removed the resistance to having the relationship you deeply desire and deserve.
Let me explain these steps more clearly.
1. Know what you want.
The universe is made up of energy which is moldable. Physics has proven that. We are part of this universe and our thoughts are part of the creative energy that molds the energy. For example, everything you see was once at first an idea. Knowing what you want helps you clarify your intentions and
makes a very clear statement for yourself and to the universe. Many of us get wishy washy here and end up having relationships and experiences we don’t think we’d necessary chose. But choose we did. We just chose from a default setting that goes something like… “well, I’m not sure, whatever, maybe,
maybe not.” There’s not much deliberate intent in these kinds of feelings or thoughts. So get clear about what you want. Make a list of the qualities and values you desire in your ideal mate.
2. How will it feel when you have what you want?
To charge up your attraction power, get into the feeling state (the essence) of what it will feel like when. When she calls you those lovely pet names, when he calls to ask where you’d like to go to dinner tonight. The smiles, the laughter, the inside jokes you share. Imagine what it will be like when …
3. Let go of how and when love will show up.
Lastly, become an allower and go with the flow. When you let go of how and when, you’ve let go of resistance to having your love show up. Feeling good, expectant and happy releases resistance. From that place you’ll be inspired to actions that put you in the places, be surrounded by circumstances, synchronicities and small miracles that orchestrate the
perfect meeting. That’s how it happened for me and that’s what I teach my clients to do for themselves.
Find out what people are saying about Relationship Group Coaching at www.nanettegeiger.com/groupclass
5 Tips to Spark Up Your Love Life
Monday, June 22nd, 2009 | Relationships | No Comments
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… …
If you’re wondering where the romance and sweetness have gone from your intimate relationship, and you’d like it back, I’ve got some very good news for you. Job stress, lengthy commutes, balancing the kids’ schedules, financial pressures, and household duties never seem to end.
You’ve gotten in the habit of putting them all before your relationship needs. How did all that happen? Gradually and over a period of time, no doubt. Are you ready for some love advice that will make the difference? Well if you think that you’ll have to wait challenges of life will have to settle down for you to return to the loving intimacy you once enjoyed, think again.
You can have what you want and you don’t even necessarily have to have your mate on board 100%. By being who you want to be, I’ll show you how you can influence your partner, draw the best out of him or her and enhance your love relationship today.
1. Appreciate
This is simple yet powerful. If you will look for as many ways as possible to compliment what your partner does, you’ll find him or her coming around for more affection and positive attention and start offering it back. Appreciation is one of the highest emotional states. It’s right up there with love. Even if you find yourself wanting to find fault, instead start finding reasons to praise. If he doesn’t do the chores you want, start making lists in your head (or better on paper) of what you would love him to do - as if he’s already in the habit of doing it. You’ll see fast shifts if you do this practice as little and 7 days.
2. Acknowledge
Acknowledgment is a powerful tool. When you acknowledge someone, you are in a deep listening mode. I’m suggesting that you listen deeply free from that internal monologue going on in your head. Free yourself of the voice in your head that has the answer, a better suggestion or solution to whatever he or she is talking about. Just listen. And acknowledge that you heard what he or she said. Your partner will feel very validated and valued. A great gift of deep intimacy.
3. Affection
Remember the little things. A loving smile, little love notes on the bathroom mirror. Dry erase markers work well on mirrors and come off very easily. Let her know how much you love sharing life with her. Stroke his arm the way you used to just because. A kiss on the cheek, just because.
4. Seeing Eye-to-Eye
This is a great tip for getting right to the heart. Spend 2-3 minutes looking into each other’s eyes without speaking. Just be with each other deeply, fully present. You will experience such love for your partner. This kind of love and appreciation goes beyond words. Your hearts meet. You remember all the special things about them. You experience the depth of what your love has grown into.
5. Allow
Allow your judgments to cease. Allowing is letting it be. Letting things be just as they are. There’s a lot of release from just letting go or allowing. Perhaps you’ve heard the saying “Let Go and Let God.” This is the perfect stance to be in. There is an underlying perfection to your relationship exactly as it is right now. When you allow, you have access to all of that perfection.
Use as many of these tips and tools as you can. They’re all powerful. They all have the capability to spark greater love and affection between you and your partner. You may have to put your ego aside. I hope you enjoy these tools and many years of love and laughter in partnership.
Finding Love in Mid-Life
Monday, June 22nd, 2009 | Relationships | No Comments
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… …
Finding Love After 40 doesn’t have to involve sifting through countless personal ads, or going to singles bars. For many women finding love after 40 is not as uncommon as you may think. From my practical experience in relationship coaching, I work with women in their 30’s all the way to women in their 70’s and they learn what they need to do to change their beliefs about what’s possible in love and partnership for them.
Finding your ideal love relationship is not a numbers game. Finding true love is not about how many men you have to date before you can find Mr. Right. It’s also not about being settling down and settling for less.
In my world, you CAN have it all. You deserve to have it all. That’s what you learn in relationship coaching classes. The belief that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get your prince is an outworn myth. Limiting beliefs and feeling like you’re too old to find love again are all part of old, ingrained beliefs taught to us by our culture. Fortunately, leading edge science and quantum physics are teaching us that our thoughts create our reality. As a relationship coach, my passion in life is to help you find out how.
Before you can create your a lasting loving relationship, you need to know what has been blocking you. Your experiences will always follow your expectations. If that’s so - and it is - then you want to know what’s in the way of you getting your expectations met. Said in another way, you want to get clear of what has been in the way (limiting beliefs) of you having the love you desire and deserve.
Let’s look at a couple potent societal influences that inhibit us from attracting love.
1. The Influence of Others
Our families, friends and the media carry a lot of influence. If you’re constantly looking outside to see what’s possible for your in relationships, you’ll be comparing yourself to someone else’s standards. That rarely works for long term relationship happiness.
2. Habits of Thought or Beliefs
Your beliefs, like the air your breathe are rarely questioned. At one time it was TRUE that the earth was flat. Your thoughts, beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you in relationship will only keep the status quo in place. If you’d like to shift that, talk to a relationship expert and learn to break through your own limitations.
It’s no more difficult to find love after 40 than it is to find love in your 20’s. I manifested to love of my dreams in my late forty’s after two divorces and several relationship failures. When I got clear of what my limiting beliefs were, the love of my life entered in a very short time. I know you truly can create the love of your dreams, live happily ever after and find love after 40.